Rehab facilities

Today was a long day.  MIL, my mom and I went to tour nearby rehab facilities, as the hospital said it was time for us to choose one.  This is all well and good.  We can go look at them, see what they look like, chat with tour guides and patients.  But is he ready for rehab?  I'm not so sure.

My biggest issue with rehab right now is that in the hospital he is still trying to wiggle out of bed constantly.  He has bed rails and restraints to keep him from doing so, and in the rehab facilities they are not allowed to use either.  No restraints.  It's illegal.  So, what happens then?  They can't sit in his room 24/7.  So when he wiggles out of bed, and he will, what happens when he falls again and breaks his leg?  Or hits his head again?  What then?  And there don't seem to be options in between the hospital and rehab/long term care.

We toured 4 facilities and while all were adequate, they were not at all equal.  Our favorite was one called Royal Park.  They were bright, clean, cheerful, and didn't smell near as bad as the others.  There was a courtyard in the middle where residents could go and be outside but NOT leave as they were surrounded by 4 walls.  The lady who gave us the tour, Pat, was incredible and gave us so much information.  As a nurse she was able to tell us that yes, others were also on feeding tubes, and all about the rehabs.  They also had the nicest rehab rooms.

The worst we saw, which was adequate as I said, was S.O.  S.O. was dark and gloomy.  There were not enough windows, and then in addition the walls were painted dark, dreary colors.  You wouldn't want to visit long, much less live there.

At C.P. all was bright and nice, but one thing turned us off... the tour guide took us to a room where we were to be shown a semi-private room.  She opened the door wide and was pointing things out to us in the room...all while a naked man stood on the other side of the room.  She didn't even acknowledge him, much less take us to a different room to give him some privacy.  It's possible he didn't realize he was naked, or even that we were there...but we did.  Who does that?

The question now is, can they meet his needs?  Can they help him gain back some skills?  We don't know.  We need to speak with case workers again.  Palliative care again.  Doctors again.